How are your thoughts and emotions impacting the way you are reacting to the conflict? Are you quick to react?
What choices do you have in this conflict?
If you could hold your reaction, and instead choose an intentional response, what would it be?
In the end, what do you really want out of this relationship? What is most important?
Learning to listen well to others, requires the ability to listen to yourself first by developing your self-awareness. Listening well also includes recognizing that you have a choice in how you respond, versus reacting in the moment, resulting in being purposeful in conflict resolution and building the relationship.
Imagine a family, a community, an office, a world, where deep listening was the norm. What a wonderful world it would be.
About Kelli Schulte
Kelli is a Chicago-based consultant and coach helping individuals and organizations grow in emotional intelligence. With a natural curiosity for how people think and feel, she enjoys helping others increase self-awareness, build greater connections, and experience a healthier sense of well-being, in order to take positive steps forward.
In addition to being a wife and a mom of two young adults, she is also a certified coach with the International Coach Federation (ICF), a Preferred Partner with Six Seconds, Certified EQ Assessor and Practitioner, an EQ Area Network Leader with Six Seconds, a Panelist with the Six Seconds EQ Community Forum, and a regular contributor with 30Seconds.com.
Her combined experience working as a consultant with Fortune 100 organizations, and working with students and adults in church ministry gives her a unique coaching platform.