As parents, we do everything we can to prepare our kids academically for the world. We provide them with the very best in education, opportunities, extra-curricular activities, tutors, ACT prep courses, etc.
You name it. We do it in the name of making them more intriguing to the best schools.
All of these are important, and can help our kids do well, but according to recent research there is one thing that is even more important.
That one thing is EQ (emotional quotient, also known as Emotional Intelligence) and it is key to helping teens navigate the stressors of life.
Studies have shown that students with greater than average EQ also:
Navigate set backs, failures, and disappointments
Have stronger, healthier relationships
Make well thought out decisions
Are less likely to engage in high risk behaviors, including substance abuse
Know Yourself: EQ is about increasing your self-awareness. It requires you to tune into your own emotions and the automatic reactions you have to specific situations.
Choose Yourself: EQ is about being intentional. It takes your increased self-awareness and then uses that to be intentional in making the best choices to get to the desired outcome.
Did you ever wonder why really really smart people sometimes make stupid decisions? It’s most likely because they are only using the rational or cognitive side of their brain.
Our kids pay attention to how we handle situations. And, without even realizing it, they are often building scripts based on what they are learning from us. Part of self-awareness is recognizing the patterns we are following that impact our decisions. Some of our own scripts or patterns may include things we picked up from key influencers too.
Give Yourself: EQ is about being purposeful in your choices. It is the recognition that our decisions impact others. It includes understanding how our choices ripple outward, impacting those around us. It’s about increasing our empathy through connection and listening to others. And it’s about the ultimate impact we want to have…that larger purpose to our actions.
To learn how you can help your kids increase their Emotional Intelligence click HERE.
About Kelli Schulte
Kelli is a Chicago-based consultant and coach helping individuals and organizations grow in emotional intelligence. With a natural curiosity for how people think and feel, she enjoys helping others increase self-awareness, build greater connections, and experience a healthier sense of well-being, in order to take positive steps forward.
In addition to being a wife and a mom of two young adults, she is also a certified coach with the International Coach Federation (ICF), a Preferred Partner with Six Seconds, Certified EQ Assessor and Practitioner, an EQ Area Network Leader with Six Seconds, a Panelist with the Six Seconds EQ Community Forum, and a regular contributor with 30Seconds.com.
Her combined experience working as a consultant with Fortune 100 organizations, and working with students and adults in church ministry gives her a unique coaching platform.